Our parents often tell us that “We want you to get married as soon as possible so that you are settled and we will be free from our responsibility”. But, is that how it’s supposed to be? Are we, daughters, only a responsibility to be shed off? What if I am not interested and ready for a relationship or for marriage right now? But, if I’m honest with my parents, they end up thinking that I’m making a ‘bahana’ (excuse) to escape the responsibility of married life. In all this chaos of trying to convince me to get married and settle down, they forget the one important thing – that life is unpredictable and we must cherish it, the way we want, for as long as it persists.
They come up with a list of ‘perfect’ reasons to marry somebody but what if I can’t even connect with that person? How will I live a long life with someone, if that person doesn’t excite and interest me? Marriage is not a thing of formality to be done and dusted with. It happens when the time and person is right; it happens when it has to. All I want to ask them is why can’t they enjoy life with us? We can find something new each day to make life more enjoyable and make the most of it. Things will happen when they are meant to, especially when I desire them to happen, not by force and convention. Before that, I can’t and I shouldn’t. Why can’t parents just be concerned about our happiness? Why do they decide what makes us happy instead of asking us about our happiness?