We always talk about the wrong deeds done to a woman after her marriage, but we fail to realize that it is not just the women who suffer, even men can be victimized. This is one of the major causes of the rising divorce rate, which is often wrongly assigned to the rising “impatience” in women.
Where else is a man going to vent his frustration and address the pressures of daily life, some of which might arise from marriage itself?! Both husband and wife have their own sufferings, which are mainly societal, and both are correct on their part.
After marriage, all of a sudden, the boy’s family becomes more controlling. It isn’t like they do not try to control earlier, but after marriage, they start feeling more insecure. A girl leaves her family always and starts her own family. It isn’t true in today’s scenario that a girl leaves her family and starts living with her in-laws. Why is a girl expected to leave her family and go into a new family and adjust in the new environment? What is wrong in both the boy and girl starting a new family together? With more and more nuclear families coming up, a question arises on whether or not we’re moving towards westernization? The answer is “NO”; we are not.
A few days ago, I came across an advertisement for a famous detergent brand. After watching it, I felt that it spoke volumes about the true nature of our society—wherein it was shown that when a son-in-law does anything for a daughter, it is appreciated yet when a son does something for the daughter-in-law, then he has to deal with criticism. This is true. We humans fail to realize our own mistakes. We believe in blaming others whenever convenient.
I do not recommend that a son should leave his parents to fend for themselves. I think it is wrong. But to ask a daughter to do the same is also wrong. A boy also suffers a lot after marriage. He becomes a pendulum. His opinions are no more considered as his own. Parents think that the son is mechanically uttering what his wife has taught him, while on the other hand, the wife thinks her husband is siding with his parents. When a son brings a nice gift for his parents, it is considered his duty, but if he is willingly giving anything to his in-laws, then it is wrong. Why is it that a couple cannot celebrate any festival with both the families? What kind of attitude is this?! And of course, siblings play an important role in supporting this nonsense.
Thus, to say that the nuclear family concept is degrading the society is wrong. People should evolve more and accept change. This will definitely help in the betterment of relationships and uplift of society as a whole. This will also help in depreciating the staggering number of divorce cases.