Have you ever questioned whether the person with whom you are in a relationship with, today, loves you or it’s just mutual physical attraction?
Have you ever wondered about the meaning of ‘true love’?
If you have, you’ve come to the right place. Through my piece, I’m trying to answer both these questions.
Today, we often see that our friends and colleagues get into relationships which end very soon. What is this? Weren’t there promises made that they’ll hold on to their hand, no matter what happens? That they’ll never leave their side? Did they not promise to live and die with them? So, what is the reason that the person who you once “loved” so much, the person who you would talk to tirelessly, the person with whom you would share the smallest and stupidest things wit, now bears no meaning in your life?
You parted ways, went in opposite directions. Was this true love, the love that you promised to give? No, my friend – that wasn’t love. It was nothing.
The concept of love, at first sight, is utopian; the very feeling that you get at that time is merely your lust and desire to get attention, express affection and need to spend your time with someone. That’s it. Think maturely. Love isn’t that easy. It is a matter of bonding of souls, rising above the physical and worldly desires.
Love is different from attraction and sexual desires; understand this, don’t hurry to find the one made for you. Instead, give your time to yourself, focus on your goals, earn money, build a stable career and let time find the best match for you. So when the moment comes and you find your partner, you would be stable career-wise.
I might sound harsh right now, but if you think practically, you’ll realise that love is not enough. Love doesn’t fill your empty stomach, you need money for that and also for the purpose of living. So, be patient. When the time comes, you’ll have that person standing by your side who will love you as much as you would do.
Love is when you love without the fear of being loved back. Although “you want that”, it’s alright, it’s human nature, everyone wants to be loved, but when you truly love someone, you don’t expect too much, you don’t give up, you keep loving the person no matter what happens in life, your care and love for your partner should remain the same or increase, but never decrease.
True love is the absence of judgement.
True love, when achieved, will gift you the most beautiful life you ever dreamt of. Even if something goes wrong between you two, you will still be able to hold their hand without any complaints and conditions. There will be no anger, no hatred, after all, he or she was the one with whom you wanted to spend your life with, isn’t it?
When you decide to love someone, love without limits. Love when you become capable; love someone who will give you the courage to move forward, someone who understands your importance in their life and someone to whom you never need to say who you are and what you feel. Love someone who can do the same for you or at least can give you the promise that – “If not today, then from tomorrow, I promise to love you the way you love me and, no matter what, I won’t let go.”