When Will Women Be Treated With More Respect In India?

After the Hyderabad rape and murder case, my friend wrote on her Twitter account, “I don’t which one to trust and which one not to trust. I think I am bound to make judgement lapse. So, what will happen to me if I make a bad judgement?”

While sitting in the office during lunch, she showed her account to highlight the kind of response she received. One gentleman replied back, saying, “There are a lot of good men out there. But did you show the same kind of outrage for Sarabjit case and others, when one woman made a false complaint?”

Instead of arguing too much, she simply wrote back “ Do women need to die such dishonourable and painful death?” And then there was no reply.

These days, there is a section of people who constantly talk about how bad women are and how they make a man’s life painful. The first complaint they have is women do not cook. And the most obnoxious replies are written when someone argues back with them.

I want to ask; when God or whoever created us, each one of us was given a stomach and body. So, why should one person be responsible for feeding another, for the sake of the institution of marriage? If it is so important for a woman to cook, then at least outsource your stomach her. Science is very progressive these days. Women would be able to feed your stomach at their convenience.

The second complaint is that wives do not take care of husband’s parents. Did your parents gave birth to your wife, and if not, then you are responsible for taking care of your parents and she is responsible for her parents. When two close friends can fight and end their relationships, then the relationship of your parents and wife can be bad at any time. There is also another truth.

In reality, there are numerous couples where the husband does not even respect the wife’s parents, but still, the relationship continues.

The third complaint is that women emotionally manipulate men. Seriously? How many times anyone can manipulate the same person? If you are getting manipulated by the same person, either you make a choice to get manipulated or you are simply foolish. The fourth is the most distinguished kind of complaint. Women should not do any job and should sit at home and take care of children because we need a family. Amazing, right?

There is a bitter reality in India, which no politics or scientific research will pick up because it will harm the image of men. Some men in this country drink alcohol refuse to spend money in the home and in such cases, most of the income is spent on alcohol addiction. The unfortunate part of this is that, sometimes, the son learns to drink from the father.

Whenever someone points at this reality, the number of women who drink alcohol comes up, though the percentage is very low for social reasons. Most of the women join the workforce when their husbands fail to earn. Other than this, women also have their own destinies which might be earning more than their husbands. This is a reality which even religion does not want to recognise. Men and women cannot give their destinies to each other. Women brought prosperity to the family. Why should anyone be financially dependent on others for fulfilling their desires?

If a woman desires a car, then what should happen if the husband cannot fulfill it? Shouldn’t she be eligible on her own to fulfill her desires? Why she should ignore her desires because the husband is incapable of fulfilling them? All the time, husbands complain about how their housewife wives spend money. Didn’t you sign up for this when you brought a non-working woman as a wife? But you have to be dissatisfied as it is your money and not hers.

The last of the most popular complaints is that wives constantly nag. Really! Doesn’t your boss in your workplace constantly nag at you to complete the task? The boss even insults and threatens you in the process of nagging. Even bad reviews or grades are given to you as nagging for not completing the task. You tolerate these because you are being paid. And you feel harassed by your wife because of her nagging because she does not pay you?

Men, in general, discuss women every day with someone, and most of the time they are dissatisfied with women. But still, however bad you might feel a woman is, she does not deserve such a painful and dishonourable death. If a woman takes you to court for false reasons, you have a fair chance to fight. Men always say that they are more intelligent than women, so wouldn’t it be easy for them to prove a woman’s bad behaviour? If you are so much against the women’s right, then form laws against women and throw them into jail for every sin. Still, we will have a chance to fight for what is right. But, raping and killing brutally is beyond evilness.

Most of the actions against you from women come up because you think you have a job and you think you are entitled to everything in life, even a woman. In my life, I have never seen a man suffer for treating his wife as a human being, rather than a slave. In a country like India, men marry the women of their choice even in an arranged marriage.

Even then if you are dissatisfied, then you need to introspect. Feminism is not the reason for your woes, you are. When a woman kills her family by poisoning them, the law will punish her, but still, the family does not die such a brutal and inhumane death. But, raping and killing a 6-year-old or 26-year-old girl is not just painful, but the most derogatory way of dying. The parent of the veterinary doctor will not even get to cremate her body properly. People can blame women for even being born, but still, it does not absolve a man of his guilt. We as women do not deserve to die a horrendous death.

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