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Going Through A Tough Time In Life? Here Are 5 Ways To Cope

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“Let love touch your inner being and abode in its sacred throne – pure, placid and pristine.”

I wrote this line in one of my poems sometime back, and it’s something that I live by. Anyway, so the question comes – what’s with the heading? I have had the fortune to know some incredibly strong women in my life, who have been through the most devastating situations, yet came out of it as warriors with an indomitable spirit.

No matter what degree of appreciation I put it down in words, it just doesn’t suffice. It’s not only their incredible strength to surpass the storms, but the sheer amount of love and goodwill in their hearts, which remains unchanged and is still just so pure. This very fact makes me revere them and say only one word – Respect! Respect!! Respect!!!

Today, my article will reflect on the importance of healing and why do we need it in the first place?

We all go through varied experiences in our lifetime, some good while others not so good. But, it’s only in the face of adversity, that we realise what we’re made of; our very own essence.

In such circumstances, we have two options; either to let existing situations define us or make a choice to deal with them. Of course, the latter can be daunting, depending on the level of the effect, sometimes we cringe and perhaps, we may even consider the option of running away from something, just to avoid the amount of discomfort it’ll bring to us.

Learning to deal with emotions is another aspect which we need to handle with care, because, it’s very easy to get carried away in vulnerable times.

But, is that an ideal way at all? No, never. The reason being, at one point or another, you have to learn to deal with what’s bothering you and find your inner peace.

Let’s try to analyse the ways through which we can achieve this:


The first step, which perhaps not many people even want to dwell upon, is realisation. Acceptance of existing situations or even areas of discomfort is the first step towards empowering your vulnerability.


Each thought that we create in our minds, and the power it brings to us, is tremendous and untapped. The majority of us are not even aware of our thought-patterns, more so, of the fact that we have a choice in creating our thoughts. Of course, all these need daily efforts to cultivate a conscious way of living.


Our thoughts create emotions. Learning to deal with emotions is another aspect which we need to handle with care, because, it’s very easy to get carried away in vulnerable times; especially when your mind is chaotic and you’re viewing everything subjectively.

It great if there’s someone who can help you by providing clarity, especially if you’re finding it difficult to handle things on your own. But be careful of whom you’re opening your heart to. As much as we all want to have someone who seconds our thoughts, it’s equally important to have a look at circumstances with objective vision.


Once we get to know about our awareness to create thoughts, and thereby creating emotions of a similar kind, we’ll have clarity in our mind to purify our being. It’s important to remember here that people act according to their beliefs and level of understanding, which might not always be tallying with us. And any form of negativity will create disturbance in your mind first, and thereby, impact your soul and inner peace.

That’s not to say, we give in to them or what they did, but it’s entirely up to us, to decide whether we want to let it become a deciding factor in our life ahead, or simply put it down to experience, and learn from it.


It’s one of the most crucial factors when it comes to healing, because no two people will ever experience a similar level of pain, the proportion will differ and so will the time period. You have to allow yourself the time to feel the gamut of emotions yet make sure you’re working on yourself positively.

This is one such opportunity to put your energy into something constructive and worth learning.

We all have an inner spark; we need to remind ourselves of this every day, there’s an incredible strength, which perhaps only gets unleashed amidst the adversities life puts us through. Our life is nothing but a series of experiences, one after the other, an amalgamation of many a kind, it entirely rests upon us, what kind of life we want to make, a better one or a bitter one.

I firmly believe that if we conduct every aspect of our life with sincerity and goodwill in our hearts, then no matter what challenges life throws at us, we’ll bounce back.

Having this sense of strength and clarity within oneself is so important, in order to be able to put experiences of life into something productive; because that’s the only way to grow and flourish. Eventually, we all are mortals, the least we can do in our lifetime is just to hold on to our inherent goodness.

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