Marriages and weddings are one of the most important aspects of one’s personal life made into a public event. A formality in everyone’s life with huge carbon and water footprint has always fascinated me, right from the financial aspects of it: how are parents ready to take lump-sum debts, tapping into their meagre saving meant for other financial priorities, spend close to 5-10% of their net worth on this to make ‘people’ out of the ‘connection’ happy.
What do the bride or groom actually derive from hosting this public event? What’s the personal satisfaction in standing for 5-6 hours shaking hands and smiling for cameras with all those people whom they barely know? How does bringing in a large number of people to watch your nuptials, making it all about scenery and pageantry, help the bond that ‘two people’ are trying to establish and move forward with?
I wonder whether the couples of this generation will be a part of these because they ‘want’ to, and not because they ‘have‘ to? I personally feel the difference between this aspect of choice and obligation will make a huge difference in the forthcoming decades.
But are people ready to have a wedding that makes a change, an evolution in the way it has been taking place? Or will having ‘your’ wedding, ‘your’ day, be a simple ceremony with kool aid and cake, with selected friends and family without spending much get you labelled as ‘being scrooge or selfish’?
Don’t small weddings tend to be more intimate, actually allowing more chances of mingling, while also fulfilling the purpose of inviting them, instead of inviting 300 people like they are subpoenaed to take a picture, shake hands, be fed at the event, and most importantly, burn cash?
I personally think our idea of weddings needs to evolve, to just be able to “do your thing” and make it “your day”. I would love to know a better perspective on this and actually see the point in having a mammoth event with a costly price tag, I’m open to listen and understand the reason behind it.