Do you have a constant, lingering thought that you might lose the person you are currently with? Have past experiences left you with trust issues? Do you overthink? If this is all that you think of on most days, then we need to talk.
I have been in a relationship in which I was constantly thinking about losing the person I was in love with, and often, used to have fights due to these insecurities. There were days when we wouldn’t talk. Eventually, I realised that I’m losing what I currently have, while thinking about the future. So what does one do when one has these insecurities?
A lot of times, we tend to make our world revolve around this person while we may have many things to indulge in, apart from constantly talking about them the whole time. Start indulging in yourself, your academics, work, career, passion, hobbies, family, friends, etc. even as you give attention to the person you love.
Maintaining a healthy personal space is a must. Sometimes, when you are in love with someone, you want to spend most of your time with them, you want to know them more, and you want them to know you.But in this, we forget that we have our individual lives to live too. We forget to maintain a healthy space between each other’s lives, and end up nagging too much. Sometimes, we should let each other be.
Remember, communication is the key. Insecurities make us afraid of speaking our minds out. You should talk about them, to them, with them. Your partner should be aware of the mental fights you have every day with yourself because of them. Things should be communicated in a calm way where you both talk to each other. These things helped me sustain my relationship. Out of the most, if you love someone and they also love you, never give up on each other.