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I Got One For You: How Does One Believe In Equality Without Being A Feminist?

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On 10th May, we celebrated Mother’s Day around the world. There was an outpour of affection on social media with everyone uploading pictures, writing compliments, and acknowledging the sacrifices made by some of these incredible women. One such person on my Instagram feed followed the tradition and uploaded a whole set of his mother’s pictures, reminiscing his memories growing up, sacrifices she made for them, and how she balanced her career while always being there for her family.

While this spam had not even expired its 24 hours on his profile, it was followed with a rant. This was a rant against feminism, a century-long movement that demands equality irrespective of one’s gender.

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The transition from hailing a woman’s contributions and achievements to a rant on feminism was an irony that was lost on him. His criticism of the movement stemmed from another update that came into light.

A Delhi Police investigation into the horrible ‘Bois locker room’ incident reported that a separate case was mixed with the main issue. It was a Snapchat conversation, and the police found out that a girl made a fake account to ‘test the boy’s character’.

The boy, as per the investigation, blocked the account and shared the screenshots with the girl and his friends. The incident, however, triggered a new set of allegations, not just against ”women who take unfair advantage of equality,’ but some even questioning the entire movement of feminism. None of them, however, addressed the more substantial concern: Why did the girl feel the need to test the boy’s character?

Frankly, this was not the first time I came across such a rant. It is a popular discourse on social media that rises up every time cases of sexual assault or gender-based discrimination receive public attention. There is a general lack of awareness of feminism as a movement and its contributions to the larger fight for equality.

One common paradoxical statement born out of this incomplete understanding is, “I believe in equality, but I’m not a feminist.” There is an attempt to stigmatize the idea of calling oneself a feminist. What is it that makes people think they are advocates of equality but cannot be feminists?

Feminism Has Been Demonised By Patriarchy

few weeks back, I had an argument over this issue with a friend who labelled me as one of the ‘feminist types’. It was not until a week later that both of us realized that he meant it as a derogatory label, and I took it as a compliment. The movement has been demonized in India by a rigid patriarchal system.

It has alienated men and a lot of women away from the idea of equality. There is an attempt to shame a person if they call themselves a feminist. But my question is this: Why would you shy away from the label if you believe in the ideals of the movement?

Feminism is not perfect, and no feminist claims it as such. There have been three waves of feminism, each focusing on a set of issues relevant to its time. We are in a new age of technology, with access to a virtual world.

There is a new set of concerns we are facing as humans, and the movement is adjusting itself to these occurrences every day. In India, social problems like casteism pose a double-bind hurdle to the movement. Does this mean it’s bound to fail? Can one case derail the entire movement? If you haven’t guessed it, the answer is no.

When one fixates on a rare occurrence and ignores the everyday sexism around them, it points out to the success of patriarchal conditioning. Feminism might be imperfect, but misogyny is systematically imbibed in us. Many women who shy away from feminism are a product of this patriarchal conditioning. Their tendencies to compensate and attempts to be impartial are mere contributions to perpetuate patriarchy.

There is a need to have increased awareness about the movement. It is practically invisible from the academic discourse in schools and colleges. There are attempts to reduce the accomplishments of this movement as a ‘right’ or ‘left’ issue on the political spectrum. But if you claim to believe in the ideals of equality, it is clear that it is a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ issue.

If you are someone who is keen to know more about the movement, one suggestion is to read about its history, pioneers, and its impact on our society. It is not an easy process to unlearn everything that we have been taught growing up. All of us are a part of that struggle, and we are still learning and adapting. So, it is impossible to separate oneself away from the movement if you believe in its goal.

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Now as an MH Fellow with YKA, she’s expanding her impressive scope of work further by launching a campaign to facilitate the process of ensuring better menstrual health and SRH services for women residing in correctional homes in West Bengal. The campaign will entail an independent study to take stalk of the present conditions of MHM in correctional homes across the state and use its findings to build public support and political will to take the necessary action.

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The long-term aim of the campaign is to develop an open culture where menstruation is not treated as a taboo. The campaign also seeks to hold the schools accountable for their responsibilities as an important component in the implementation of MHM policies by making adequate sanitation infrastructure and knowledge of MHM available in school premises.

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Harshita is a psychologist and works to support people with mental health issues, particularly adolescents who are survivors of violence. Associated with the Azadi Foundation in UP, Harshita became an MHM Fellow with YKA, with the aim of promoting better menstrual health.

Her campaign #MeriMarzi aims to promote menstrual health and wellness, hygiene and facilities for female sex workers in UP. She says, “Knowledge about natural body processes is a very basic human right. And for individuals whose occupation is providing sexual services, it becomes even more important.”

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With YKA MHM Fellow Vineet, Sabna launched Menstratalk, a campaign that aims to put an end to period poverty and smash menstrual taboos in society. As a start, the campaign aims to begin conversations on menstrual health with five hundred adolescents and youth in Delhi through offline platforms, and through this community mobilise support to create Period Friendly Institutions out of educational institutes in the city.

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A student from Delhi School of Social work, Vineet is a part of Project Sakhi Saheli, an initiative by the students of Delhi school of Social Work to create awareness on Menstrual Health and combat Period Poverty. Along with MHM Action Fellow Sabna, Vineet launched Menstratalk, a campaign that aims to put an end to period poverty and smash menstrual taboos in society.

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As a Youth Ki Awaaz Menstrual Health Fellow, Nitisha has started Let’s Talk Period, a campaign to mobilise young people to switch to sustainable period products. She says, “80 lakh women in Delhi use non-biodegradable sanitary products, generate 3000 tonnes of menstrual waste, that takes 500-800 years to decompose; which in turn contributes to the health issues of all menstruators, increased burden of waste management on the city and harmful living environment for all citizens.

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