In the crucial movement of this lockdown, we are interacting with our children. It is a pleasing experience but sometimes it also becomes very annoying. So how can we tackle all problems in a diagnostic way?
Kids are god-gifted, aren’t they? Do we introspect and care and nurture for them as if they’re a present? Yes. We are all chasing all our ambitions but raising kids is quite demanding and takes a lot of time time is an expense which is desirable with our kids. I would like to share my own experience being a mother of an 8 years old lovely daughter. She is active, we can say that she is excessively active and it gets quite challenging to cope with her in all physical activity because, since her childhood, I have always maintained a habit for spending time with her in a way that makes us light and bright.
I just try to grab some really valuable moments in which we play together, but with the passing of time, I have found it difficult to take out time from my hectic schedule for play with her. Initially, I did not realise the changes occurring in her behaviour but later, I realised that she is going to be annoyed. So, now, I just introspect all my work schedule, time, routine and responsibility to sort out this problem.
Here I am going to define the kind of problems we may face in the way of our parenting.
- First and foremost, lack of time. We are all busy in our life so taking time from our daily routine is hard but this is mandatory and we must manage an hour for our kids.
- Hustle to feel that our kids are grownups. Parents are always in a haste to assume that their kids have now grown-ups and they do not nee so much of our time and attention but they also need our love, care and guidance.
- Psychological issues – with the growing age they encounter many challenges in which they find themselves alone such as sexual or developmental concerns, school or career challenges, and so on. Being parents, we need a diagnostic approach to resolve their issues.
- Moral growth of our child. As a guide of our kids, it is essential to growing them in a way they can choose between right and wrong. This topic needs attention and solution.
- The pressure of high rank in school or college – this is the common problem which parents, as well as children, encounter at the same level.
Suggestion required to deal with all the obstacles which have been discussed above.
1 Time management: To get some extra movement, we need a customised plan for the day. We can then definitely utilise it to make our kids life full of love, care and affection which they deserve.
2 Change your perspective. Let them grow in their flaws just like a flower in its natural surroundings, do not mix your human perception in their natural growth. Be patient, good things take time.
3 Be a Friend – When your children enter a teen zone, make them realise that they have a real friend in you, so they find themselves at ease to share their problems.
4 Set your example- As we all know, it is a universal truth that parents are the first teacher of their ward so they are picking all their moral learning with their parents. Therefore, we need to represent ourselves with high morality and dignity. This is the best way to grow them with high moral values.
5 Keep the gambling away. Surprised why I am using gambling here? It is okay. I am going to share why. As a teacher and parent, I review that most of the time we are creating an addiction in our children which is the addiction of getting 100% marks in their exam. We should avoid this addiction. Every child is unique in his or her way. Let them flow like a river of water which finds their right way without any pressure.
To sum it up, I’m just saying that all these suggestions are simple yet effective, so just add them in your life and make the parenting and childhood of your kids a good experience instead of making it a boring and exhausting experience of the day.