This writing might prick in the eyes of liberals and feminists. Since, boys are coming out of shell and slowly speaking up , their voices , and this is a new trend catching pace , though , we don’t have many welfare schemes in our countries. Here, are some things that I want to say, as a boy , and stereotypes around boys, why are those are existent in society . So let’s start with boys , movies like Pink reinforce the idea that boys are oppressors or predators , ready to prey at any opportunity , they find . Reality is different, from movies but offer a reflection of society .
Mother India, I had heard about a long ago, an oppressed woman fights oppressive landlords and predators on her own, as industry progressed , so did the narratives and with 2013 Nirbhaya Gang Rape Case , and Bollywood adopted western feminism, that was about self discovery, but the idea of man as a breadwinner, was probably reinforced by Jane Austen.
But , Bollywood fell into ditch of vices of western society, and producers picked this narrative as selling point of stories from west , showing always woman as oppressed and men as oppressors , captured imagination of hindi speaking states , and so this feminism became an issue in North India, particularly around Delhi and Gurgaon, where a lot of stalking happens , and mass media generally peddles Delhi as unsafe, like a cliched news . Thus, adds more to dissatisfaction of women rights . Let us first shed mughal era mentality that women cannot fight, and always men have to come to rescue
Dowry and other evils in North India led to passing of overprotective dowry and marriage crimes legislation s, damaging the perception of men , and since the police isn’t trained and sensitized enough to deal with(cases, men are accused of such crimes more than women, and they are guilty until proven by society when media trials start .
While laws were necessary but has backfired over women rights. Still media makes us believe masculinity as a bad thing , watch Kamla Bhasin’s episode in Satyameva Jayate , showing masculinity , as bad though it showed violent masculinity is bad, but hardly it talks about the other side of the story; of toxic feminity. Aunties who are judgmental are ignored by feminists, who demean girls for being what they want to be , often mother in law insists for a baby boy, but nobody talks about it . Though under PNDT act,
Women who abuse young children in classroom and bully , also in house , mother aunts , beating children to cool down their frustration . In a web series called Kavita Bhabhi , there was an episode , where she was doing forceful intercourse with her homosexual husband refusing to have sex, what do these web series add in mind of viewers, homosexual don’t have rights
Lets Come To Classrooms,
NGOs and other agencies should work on pressing for legislation to make sure gender discrimination, is prohibited in classrooms , and remove gendered studies as per recommendations in Justice Verma Committee report 2013 . Teachers abusing any student physically, emotionally or mentally should be sent behind the bars.
Family protection laws must make harassment gender neutral , so that even boys can feel free to approach police and juvenile courts for justice against abuse. No person should be entitled to beat boys , on the ground that boys are tougher physically , and stop treating boys as a punching bag for frustration .
Parents should be educated to invest in investment plans for retirement , and not on boys salary for retirement . Similarly , maintenance should be made on grounds of role of spouses , and not a single formula . Moreover , district family committees should be made so that boys can approach the committee to address family and work issues.
Sex education should be a part of adolescents’ health program as a part of curriculum, and all gender induced biases should be removed , from textbooks, because it also damages the perceptions of boys and takes a toll on his individual rights . After #MeeToo lets resolve to fight against gender discrimination lets start a movement #WeToo where we speak up against any form of gender discrimination , and also demand for legal as well as medical protection of victims of gender prejudices . And also send a message to previous generations , that we can handle social issues better than you .