Is it the right time for me to speak up against the stigmas we as women have to come across each passing day? How can we bring about the much needed change we are expecting for ages? How to deal with that nasty neighbour who taunts us at each progressive step we take in life out of her/his limited mental frame? I am pretty sure these questions have not only crossed my mind, but have become a regular way of dealing with vouyerism in this country.
I think the solution is pretty simple yet pretty complex. As a communication professional or as a solo woman traveller I have come across many cases as such where the victims have been wounded for life with casual humiliation.
I myself have been a victim of such hypocrisy or mysogyny carried out by a group of complex driven people or women per se who couldn’t see beyond their pathetically conditioned thinking ( which make them emotional vultures, who can not see people succeed, because it reminds them of their own failures and make them insecure about their own existence).
India, as a country might have been developed in infrastructure, but it is a shame we still cannot call this country a civilised one. Until and unless we manage to make people aware of the laws and its repercussions, there’s no future for this country.
It is unfortunate to see women who once strived to break free that stigma become perpetrators even after clearing civil services and become one with the perpetrators who once had been a reason for them to dream of coming out of that stigmatised nexus.
If we can get people to strictly adhere to the constitution, then I think there will be an end to some portion of stigma related crimes in this country.
From my decade long survey I can confidently say that it’s a sense of worthlessness that makes people do evil and make them take to violence.
Our faulty education system has rotted the country to a huge extent. People with a mere degree or even a PhD, without having any knowledge about life cannot have the skills required to run a system always. However, out of faulty conditioning , women are forced into getting those degrees just to polish their egos and just to pretend to be superior over the ones without those degrees or to pretend to be equals in society. Pressure resulting from this mentality completely distracts the victims from the actual purpose of education i.e bridging gaps within communities following the secular and the liberal nature of the Indian constitution. By stigmatising or discriminating, these people hold the progress of the country to a huge extent.
In many places in India girls who have male friends, who live as per their own terms, are stigmatised and character assassinated by fellow women who out of low lelf esteem or after living as victims for years put a chain to their dreams. As a result, they pour out their frustration to the ones, who are confident or blessed enough to pursue their dreams and succeed in their respective careers. This section of people fail to realise if women become progressive around them, it is good for their own wellbeing and it helps their own progress directly or indirectly.
Administration plays a vital role in lawfully managing the society as well. If we can get a law adhering, empathetic and corruption free system that works more on rehabilitations rather than illogical punishments or humiliation, I am sure that many issues in this country will get resolved without even getting presented at the courts.
I strongly believe that we individually can do a lot to bring about a positive change if we fearlessly follow our hearts and the laws, instead of taking our decisions based on the beliefs of those perpetrators. If we can manage to awaken collective consciousness by working on our thinking process at individual level, then only I think we can make our country free from these evils.