This post has been self-published on Youth Ki Awaaz by Divya Yadav. Just like them, anyone can publish on Youth Ki Awaaz.

A Letter To My Future Self: Don’t You Dare Give Up

More from Divya Yadav

“Life is a roller coaster ride, with a number of ups and downs. When it goes up, it feels good but when it comes down, it’s scary and yet at the end everything is fine and we feel good to have had such an amazing experience in life✨.”

Heyborn beautiful’! 🤭😂 How you doing? 😉 I’m the 18-year-old version of you from the past. 🤭I know this is crazy, but I believe that I am the only person that knows you completely. I have no idea how old are you and what you are up to in your life presently. I have multiple feelings when I write this to you and I am sure you’d share the same state of mind when you read it. 😽

Let me tell you, you were a jolly, fun-loving person who just needed a reason to laugh out loud 😂 when you were 18. I don’t know if you are the same right now or not, but the only thing I am sure of is you are much more mature and responsible than you used to be. 😘 Please tell me you are unbelievably amazing and a lot more interesting than you used to be! 😉🤭

Now let’s come to the point, look I know life is becoming challenging every single day and it’s not possible to be in an “Aaal iijjj well” 🤭😋😂 kinda mood 24/7. Let me tell you, at present, when I am writing this to you, all good things have been happening around me, or you can say this is actually the “Days of our lives.” 😂 I am pretty sure that if today I am happy, then maybe tomorrow or day after tomorrow I might get some reason to be sad or stressed because that is how life is supposed to be. So, basically, this letter is just to prepare the future version of myself to keep calm and stay strong. 😌😎

Image provided by the author.

Do you feel like “jab life ho out of control toh hothon ko krke gol, hothon ko krke gol, siti baja ke bol, aal ijjj well” (when life goes out of control, just tell yourself ‘all is well) isn’t actually working? 😅😓 Do you feel like “mere sath hi hmesha aisa q hota h yaar?” (why does it always happen to me?) 🥺

A series of unexpected setbacks surrounds you and you have no idea how to deal with it. You are heart-broken, shattered and have no idea what to do next. Thoughts like “Ab sab kya sochenge” (What will everyone think now?) also starts effecting your mental peace 😔 Let me tell you, this is how life is supposed to be. How can you expect happiness and success at each and every stage of life without any setbacks? Life is a journey of good events and bad events. They all have a purpose to serve. The good ones reward you for your dedication and the bad ones push you to be better.✨💞

Let me tell you, when you were 18 you strongly believed in quotes like “Tough times don’t last, tough people, do. “✨ “Jo hota h acche ke liye hota h” (Whatever happens, happens for good) ✨ “This too shall pass” ✨ and that was not just because it was motivating, but because you have had experiences which proved it to be true. ❤

Your part is to do your best and leave the rest. Don’t forget, karma plays its part. You will be facing the consequences of our own deeds, so play your part well and don’t worry about the rest. I know it’s disappointing when plans don’t turn out well but remember you have plans, but God always has better plans.✨ So, stop stressing out. I know you won’t, you shitty overthinking moron😡😶 But don’t forget, taking stress leads to hair fall and I am pretty sure you are really conscious about your hair. 😌😂 So, go to sleep instead! 😴

I know your problems are much more important than what I have faced till now. But yes I assure you this that “Sab moh maya hai” (Everything is an illusion) 😌 and once you get over it, you will feel silly because “end me sab thik ho hi jata hai.” (Everything works out by the end)🤭

I don’t really care what others think but you actually are my favourite person and you have always been the best person I have known. In fact, I think I am obsessed with you. 🤭😉😂😘❤ So, you are not supposed to disappoint me, okay? 😈

Let me just remind you of a few more things that you actually need to hear but no one expects I will tell you this. 😈 Setbacks come in life to make the taste of upcoming success even more delicious. 😋 So don’t you dare give up. Always remember: “Why did you start? What made you start? If you started it, go complete it!”😈 There is nothing in the world known as a ‘last option’, trust me you will always find a way, there is no end!

Also, at times life will be very ‘Meharbaan’ and will make you feel like “kya khoob rab ne kiya, binn maange itna diya” (God has given you so much without even having to ask)😈✨ In those days, be happy but stay grounded, and don’t forget that this is just the start, you have to work even harder now. 💁🙂

Girl, I believe in you! 💕 I know your capabilities and I believe in you. I expect the same from you. Self-love, self-confidence, self-belief, that is it. 💗 I know every day you will meet people who will try to pull you down but modern problem requires a modern solution. Just do this “🖕” and ignore them.

I don’t know if this made you feel the way I intended to or not, but if it did, I am glad. 🤭

You go, girl! Be that better person you always aimed to be when you were 18! 🤭✨

-Loads of love, from the 18-year-old version of yourself 😉❤

You must be to comment.

More from Divya Yadav

Similar Posts

By Srihita Vanguri

By Uma Medhi

By Preeti Ojha

Wondering what to write about?

Here are some topics to get you started

Share your details to download the report.

We promise not to spam or send irrelevant information.

Share your details to download the report.

We promise not to spam or send irrelevant information.

An ambassador and trained facilitator under Eco Femme (a social enterprise working towards menstrual health in south India), Sanjina is also an active member of the MHM Collective- India and Menstrual Health Alliance- India. She has conducted Menstrual Health sessions in multiple government schools adopted by Rotary District 3240 as part of their WinS project in rural Bengal. She has also delivered training of trainers on SRHR, gender, sexuality and Menstruation for Tomorrow’s Foundation, Vikramshila Education Resource Society, Nirdhan trust and Micro Finance, Tollygunj Women In Need, Paint It Red in Kolkata.

Now as an MH Fellow with YKA, she’s expanding her impressive scope of work further by launching a campaign to facilitate the process of ensuring better menstrual health and SRH services for women residing in correctional homes in West Bengal. The campaign will entail an independent study to take stalk of the present conditions of MHM in correctional homes across the state and use its findings to build public support and political will to take the necessary action.

Saurabh has been associated with YKA as a user and has consistently been writing on the issue MHM and its intersectionality with other issues in the society. Now as an MHM Fellow with YKA, he’s launched the Right to Period campaign, which aims to ensure proper execution of MHM guidelines in Delhi’s schools.

The long-term aim of the campaign is to develop an open culture where menstruation is not treated as a taboo. The campaign also seeks to hold the schools accountable for their responsibilities as an important component in the implementation of MHM policies by making adequate sanitation infrastructure and knowledge of MHM available in school premises.

Read more about his campaign.

Harshita is a psychologist and works to support people with mental health issues, particularly adolescents who are survivors of violence. Associated with the Azadi Foundation in UP, Harshita became an MHM Fellow with YKA, with the aim of promoting better menstrual health.

Her campaign #MeriMarzi aims to promote menstrual health and wellness, hygiene and facilities for female sex workers in UP. She says, “Knowledge about natural body processes is a very basic human right. And for individuals whose occupation is providing sexual services, it becomes even more important.”

Meri Marzi aims to ensure sensitised, non-discriminatory health workers for the needs of female sex workers in the Suraksha Clinics under the UPSACS (Uttar Pradesh State AIDS Control Society) program by creating more dialogues and garnering public support for the cause of sex workers’ menstrual rights. The campaign will also ensure interventions with sex workers to clear misconceptions around overall hygiene management to ensure that results flow both ways.

Read more about her campaign.

MH Fellow Sabna comes with significant experience working with a range of development issues. A co-founder of Project Sakhi Saheli, which aims to combat period poverty and break menstrual taboos, Sabna has, in the past, worked on the issue of menstruation in urban slums of Delhi with women and adolescent girls. She and her team also released MenstraBook, with menstrastories and organised Menstra Tlk in the Delhi School of Social Work to create more conversations on menstruation.

With YKA MHM Fellow Vineet, Sabna launched Menstratalk, a campaign that aims to put an end to period poverty and smash menstrual taboos in society. As a start, the campaign aims to begin conversations on menstrual health with five hundred adolescents and youth in Delhi through offline platforms, and through this community mobilise support to create Period Friendly Institutions out of educational institutes in the city.

Read more about her campaign. 

A student from Delhi School of Social work, Vineet is a part of Project Sakhi Saheli, an initiative by the students of Delhi school of Social Work to create awareness on Menstrual Health and combat Period Poverty. Along with MHM Action Fellow Sabna, Vineet launched Menstratalk, a campaign that aims to put an end to period poverty and smash menstrual taboos in society.

As a start, the campaign aims to begin conversations on menstrual health with five hundred adolescents and youth in Delhi through offline platforms, and through this community mobilise support to create Period Friendly Institutions out of educational institutes in the city.

Find out more about the campaign here.

A native of Bhagalpur district – Bihar, Shalini Jha believes in equal rights for all genders and wants to work for a gender-equal and just society. In the past she’s had a year-long association as a community leader with Haiyya: Organise for Action’s Health Over Stigma campaign. She’s pursuing a Master’s in Literature with Ambedkar University, Delhi and as an MHM Fellow with YKA, recently launched ‘Project अल्हड़ (Alharh)’.

She says, “Bihar is ranked the lowest in India’s SDG Index 2019 for India. Hygienic and comfortable menstruation is a basic human right and sustainable development cannot be ensured if menstruators are deprived of their basic rights.” Project अल्हड़ (Alharh) aims to create a robust sensitised community in Bhagalpur to collectively spread awareness, break the taboo, debunk myths and initiate fearless conversations around menstruation. The campaign aims to reach at least 6000 adolescent girls from government and private schools in Baghalpur district in 2020.

Read more about the campaign here.

A psychologist and co-founder of a mental health NGO called Customize Cognition, Ritika forayed into the space of menstrual health and hygiene, sexual and reproductive healthcare and rights and gender equality as an MHM Fellow with YKA. She says, “The experience of working on MHM/SRHR and gender equality has been an enriching and eye-opening experience. I have learned what’s beneath the surface of the issue, be it awareness, lack of resources or disregard for trans men, who also menstruate.”

The Transmen-ses campaign aims to tackle the issue of silence and disregard for trans men’s menstruation needs, by mobilising gender sensitive health professionals and gender neutral restrooms in Lucknow.

Read more about the campaign here.

A Computer Science engineer by education, Nitisha started her career in the corporate sector, before realising she wanted to work in the development and social justice space. Since then, she has worked with Teach For India and Care India and is from the founding batch of Indian School of Development Management (ISDM), a one of its kind organisation creating leaders for the development sector through its experiential learning post graduate program.

As a Youth Ki Awaaz Menstrual Health Fellow, Nitisha has started Let’s Talk Period, a campaign to mobilise young people to switch to sustainable period products. She says, “80 lakh women in Delhi use non-biodegradable sanitary products, generate 3000 tonnes of menstrual waste, that takes 500-800 years to decompose; which in turn contributes to the health issues of all menstruators, increased burden of waste management on the city and harmful living environment for all citizens.

Let’s Talk Period aims to change this by

Find out more about her campaign here.

Share your details to download the report.

We promise not to spam or send irrelevant information.

A former Assistant Secretary with the Ministry of Women and Child Development in West Bengal for three months, Lakshmi Bhavya has been championing the cause of menstrual hygiene in her district. By associating herself with the Lalana Campaign, a holistic menstrual hygiene awareness campaign which is conducted by the Anahat NGO, Lakshmi has been slowly breaking taboos when it comes to periods and menstrual hygiene.

A Gender Rights Activist working with the tribal and marginalized communities in india, Srilekha is a PhD scholar working on understanding body and sexuality among tribal girls, to fill the gaps in research around indigenous women and their stories. Srilekha has worked extensively at the grassroots level with community based organisations, through several advocacy initiatives around Gender, Mental Health, Menstrual Hygiene and Sexual and Reproductive Health Rights (SRHR) for the indigenous in Jharkhand, over the last 6 years.

Srilekha has also contributed to sustainable livelihood projects and legal aid programs for survivors of sex trafficking. She has been conducting research based programs on maternal health, mental health, gender based violence, sex and sexuality. Her interest lies in conducting workshops for young people on life skills, feminism, gender and sexuality, trauma, resilience and interpersonal relationships.

A Guwahati-based college student pursuing her Masters in Tata Institute of Social Sciences, Bidisha started the #BleedwithDignity campaign on the technology platform, demanding that the Government of Assam install
biodegradable sanitary pad vending machines in all government schools across the state. Her petition on has already gathered support from over 90000 people and continues to grow.

Bidisha was selected in’s flagship program ‘She Creates Change’ having run successful online advocacy
campaigns, which were widely recognised. Through the #BleedwithDignity campaign; she organised and celebrated World Menstrual Hygiene Day, 2019 in Guwahati, Assam by hosting a wall mural by collaborating with local organisations. The initiative was widely covered by national and local media, and the mural was later inaugurated by the event’s chief guest Commissioner of Guwahati Municipal Corporation (GMC) Debeswar Malakar, IAS.

Sign up for the Youth Ki Awaaz Prime Ministerial Brief below