The self-doubts! They have been bothering us, humans, for so long, from the early ages. I remember the early man’s story taught to me in third grade. The early man was a hunter then, and the circumstances made him be a farmer, cultivating crops, living in harmony and peace, being civilized rather than being wild.
But my question is- What if something forced him to opt to farm rather than going on a hunt and lose some of his own people, getting killed in action while chasing the beast! If something forced him to act in a more civilized way rather than acting wild?
All I’m trying to contemplate is that what if the ‘self-doubts’ he had on his mind made him choose differently & act differently. The things he was seeing around him happening, observing them, and analyzing them could have planted the first seed of self-doubt in his mind. Doubts like
Would I be able to come alive from this hunt?
Would I be able to get the authentication and respect of the people around me?
Would I be able to make any difference if I keep acting uncivilized?
And many “Would I be” that we can’t even imagine.
Doesn’t this “Would I be” resemble a typical but the strongest form of “Self-Doubt”? Indeed! It does. Self-Doubt is not a modern-day concept. It has been there since the origin of life- try thinking of the very first creature, got craved by the life-giving beauty of nature, kicking & alive!
What do you think, wasn’t it having a “Would I Be” inside it, from the very first moment it felt alive? Don’t you think it had wondered too- Would I be able to survive here, of where It didn’t even know what is beneath it!
Just know my concern for you! You’re a beautiful soul fed with lies that the self-doubts are harmful, and they drain you into the darkness and confines you to your lowest level of creativity and make you live your lives to the low standards- emotional & mental levels.
But I’m going to tell you the beauty of Self-Doubts how you can deal with them in a courageous and positive way.
“The Self-Doubt is like that mirror which shows you about what your limitations are, what you’re afraid of achieving or losing what you have.”
There is one powerful thing working around us, ‘The Law of Attraction of Universe.’ It attracts whatever you’re feeling or having desperate thoughts about to you- Let’s say, you’re thinking of not spilling the glass of water so hard on your mind, but even thinking so hard about not doing it, you spill it anyway.
“The Law of Attraction doesn’t acknowledge the “not” in the sentences. It just takes it like- you want to spill the water on the table. You need to be very careful while you wish for anything for yourself. You need to be positive in a way while you ask the universe for something, Period.”
The question is, how to deal with these doubts you have when you are completely exhausted from the inside- mentally & emotionally?
Here’s the thing- The early man we talked about earlier, changing everything he does, surely, would have been the one who has had worked on these self-doubts in a positive way and turned them into the checklist for himself, instead.
He would have made his mind clear that if he’d keep sitting on his butt, just thinking and feeling pathetic about him in having all these self-doubts or realizing of the things that he’s unable to do, it would never help him grow and in turn, he would not be able to make any difference than the others around him who are just not tired enough to treat themselves in a way worse than being pathetic.
He would have taken steps bravely, knowing that it’s important to overcome all those self-doubts troubling him in his growth, being a better version of him. Thus, making a chance to give you a better world that you live in today.
“And that spirit! Don’t you lose it just because you haven’t figured it yet, the way to conquer your inner demons?”
First, of first, stop feeling pathetic about yourself, Right Now & Right Away!
You’re perfect in your own ways, and these self-doubts can be overcome easily. I mean, didn’t you once have a doubtful fear of falling into that 2 feet wide pit! But you kept thinking of the ways to just jump it off, and one day, you just jumped it off fine. You overcame your fear and stopped doubting yourself any more about it.
“Why not try that to overcome the doubts you are having right now when it’s time you need the most to fight the demons within you?” Why hold back now!
What’s holding you back now?
It’s you who’s treating yourself down and giving others a chance to feed on your insecurities and make your condition worse. Just rise energetically enough to gather yourself up to have whatever you’ve always wanted or wondering about right now.
Give yourself enough courage to push off the limits that you’ve set for yourself. The world is so beautiful with you giving yourself a chance and enough courage to overcome your self-doubts.
You can do it by- Being with the people who are really there for you with all their heart and love to support your growth. They are the one that would never feed on your insecurities, instead makes you talk to them about what’s bothering you and helps you straight to get over the fuss going on your mind.
“You can go through all the sufferings alone.
But you don’t have to be alone in the process.”
The worst thing that you do to yourself is cutting off from the rest of the world in agony & fear of facing people. Thus, isolating yourself. You need to know this – It’s okay to isolate yourself to figure it out. What is it that really matters to you?
But the moment you realize it, you should come back to the mainstream immediately because the longer you’d be in isolation, the more it will draw you to the darkness where thoughts are dizzy, and sometimes you just end up being in depression. Anxiety catches you and feeds on you, making your inner self shallow by filling the deep, vast ocean of your comprehension abilities.
Just figure it out and come straight back to the people you feel understand you. You need to share their positivity to make yourself feel positive too. And, the people who love you truly are never going to make you feel down about yourself, asking them to help you grow and share their positivity with you whenever you needed it. But stay away from the people who feed on your insecurities to make you feel less about yourself. It’s important for the process.
Now, you must be thinking about the positive people around you that you can count on!
There’re no such criteria for finding them, they just exist for the greater good of yours, and you’ll just get that feeling by yourself. It can be anyone- your parents, your brother, your sister, your friend, your boyfriend, your girlfriend, a stranger, or anyone…!!
You’re going to get through what you’re afraid of.
You’re never going to feel pathetic about yourself.
You’re strong enough to overcome the insecurities within you.
You’re going to stay firm to the courage in you.
You’re going to stay firm to the kindness in you.
You’re going to promise that you’d be kind to yourself first.
You’re going to stay away from the people who make you feel less about yourself.
You’re not going to let anyone treats you badly.
“It is going to work for you. You’ll be strong again. These self-doubts are a chance to make you grow more and to be a better version of yourself than yesterday you were. Don’t let them draw you to the complete darkness. Give yourself a light.”