When I first read those abusive words, I could not move for four hours. The night of August 23 was like a mountain for me. But, with the rising sun, my courage rose too. We women often get scared of these trolls. Sometimes, instead of confronting the wrong-doers, we close ourselves and go into depression. I did not want to do this.
The rapist mentality, which I think is heavier than the male ego, feels that such words will shatter a woman from the inside, and I had to prove them wrong.
On August 24, I finally got this person’s number. I was a little surprised to know that the man who used such language was a lecturer at a private university in Rajasthan. First, I had a conversation with the vice-chancellor (VC) of his university. Then I called him. As soon as the man picked up the phone and confirmed his identity, I showered him with a barrage of abuses. But yes, I was careful not to include his mother and sister into it like him.
The man, who was acting so obnoxious on social media and writing public slogans on feminists, did not expect a woman he abused to confront him. He went into denial but his arrogance did not waver even an inch.
In the evening some feminist women found him online and asked him the meaning of words such as ‘slut’ and ‘call girl’, the very words he had used for me. Normally, men who hide behind a screen to hurl such abuses at women, don’t expect a reaction from them. The ‘gentleman’ then tried to blackmail me into keeping quiet by sending me an audio clip of our conversation.
I told him, “I am happy that a serial abuser had been abused. You can make this recording public, I do not care”.
After this act of blackmail on his part, I took to Twitter and shared the screenshots and tagged his university and his VC. Not long after the issue hit Twitter, the abuser sent an apology, saying he is the father of two daughters and he had made a mistake. An online troll was shown his place and I, keeping a woman’s dignity and his two daughters in mind, suggested that he start acting like a good father.
I was so relieved that evening. There was not only the satisfaction of forgiving someone but I felt great that I had the courage to confront a criminal.
To protect the identity, the person in the picture is a model and names have been changed.