Breakup?
Let’s start with knowing the meaning of bitter relationship. According to dictionary the definition of “bitter relationship” is
. showing or caused by strong unrelenting hostility or resentment
. difficult or unpleasant to accept or admit.
As we know humans are complicated beings and so is human relationships. One reason is because we have emotions and feelings. A human relationship comes with fights, arguments, disappointment, and also ofcourse the happy side , love , care, support and many more perks. It is no doubt a beautiful to feeling to have someone’s back in life , who loves you , cares for you , is your bestfriend and lover both . Indeed it’s a great feeling. But but when as said earlier it comes along with disappointment, fights and everything. When this part of a relationship isn’t resolved it turns into resentment. Basically if we are not acknowledging our feelings (could be negative like anger , frustration etc) and not resolving them with our partners in a healthy manner it stays with us and comes out in different forms. Here the relationship turns bitter. It usually is because of misunderstandings, lack of communication/understanding, harsh comments. It happens when one person in the relationship is keeping grudges, refuses to forgive , or maybe isn’t able to forgive because of the severity of the action. This is where it all goes wrong. After this , the person isn’t able to accept his/her partners good side. Somewhere or the other they’ll always try finding or concluding something negative out of their behaviour or actions. This could also turn as them as a toxic person in the relationship or maybe the partner could turn into one because of frustration.
There’ll be loads of misunderstandings, fights after this one incident. And the funny part is that none of the them would know the reason. Because this bitterness is in their subconscious mind . It’s hard for them to face it too.
Below given are a few signs of bitterness in a relationship-
- You feel the need to rant about your partner to someone else. You maybe more frustrated as usual and would want to share it with someone else
- You’ll always be easily offended by that person. Even in their smallest behaviour you’ll find something offensive or maybe something negative.
- You have fresh memories of what they said , did to you , even years ago. You always have that as a weapon most of the times maybe in arguments.
- You are always ready with a list of complaints, offenses on and about them.
- You become more evaluative of them when they are around. You’ll try to judge every action of theirs .
- In the course of time it is possible that you’ll even start disliking those qualities of them which you loved when you first met them or maybe at the starting of your relationship.
- You could behave abruptly around them or even in a conversation related to them .
- In extreme cases you can behave coldly or could be going through emotional numbness .
- You could blame everything on them and never take responsibility even for your own actions.
- You could go over that one incident again and again which triggered these strong emotions in you.
The above were some of the signs to look out for if you are experiencing a tensed relationship. This doesn’t always mean that breakup is necessary,but in most cases that’s the best thing to do. No wonder things could be solved if they wish. But that process isn’t something everyone can go through. I’ll also be listing a few resolving methods which could be used.
- The first step itself is kind of tough. It’s recognising the fact that you are bitter. This is a hard thing to face . Mostly people don’t realise this .
- Thenyou should list down the experience/s which made you like this.
- The final step is the one where most problems comes in. That is communicate. You need to talk about this with your partner without any filters. Here ego comes in . Also it’s not always that your partner would understand.
Resolving is a good choice but it’s doesn’t yield best results always. This whole process, relationship is harmful for you , your mental. You won’t even realize what is affecting which part of your life. There are chances you could have anger issues after this frustrated relationship, or maybe low self esteem,and many more issues. Healing after these kind of relationships could be a long process. Indeed it takes lots of courage to end things. But if something is causing you, your well-being harm , ending it is the best choice.
We tend to hold on relationships , but not always every relationship has a happy ending. Relationships are a positive and pure thing in life. It is a safe place where you both motivate each other to grow, where you have someone to support, care, fight and love. If there’s no growth , there’s no point continuing this kind of relationship. So , I would say, yes breaking up is the best decision in a bitter relationship.