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Seven Reasons Why I Am Not Excited For The F.R.I.E.N.D.S Reunion

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If Joey ever asked me “Whatcha doin‘ ” my reply would be “not watching a  problematic sitcom for the sake of nostalgia.”

F.R.I.E.N.D.S. is one of the most popular American sitcoms that aired from September 1994 to 4th May 2004. The show has inspired lives, people and even cafes. Not having friends who love the series is very uncommon. The TV show co-created by David Crane and Marta Kauffman is still telecasted on channels like Comedy Central. It was a significant but problematic part of my childhood. I watched the first season of the series with my cousin and I found some of the jokes, comments and concepts spiteful. Now that I look back as an adult, I understand why I disliked F.R.I.E.N.D.S. right from the day I started watching it.

1.These Central Park Coffee Drinkers Have Always Been Central Jerks.

The men in FRIENDS could never be my friends because of their rampant sexualisation, fetishisation and homoph*bic behaviour. Whether it is Joey’s constant sexualisation of almost every woman he comes across or his consistent fetishisation of lesbians and women who prefer women, the men of the show seem to be misogynistic.

Sexist attitudes displayed by characters on friends is found in abundance through its 10 seasons. Representative image only.

Making fun of lesbians because of their sexuality is not funny, it’s disturbing, problematic and demeaning to the couples and the individuals themselves.

2.Fat-Shaming Monica And Making Fun Of Her Undiagnosed Mental Illness.

Monica was fat-shamed quite a few times throughout the show. Fat-shaming her former self and over glorifying her weight loss further made this series anything but funny. The scene of Rachel’s sister commenting about Monica’s former body or the love story of her and Chandler while Chandler only loving her when she was acceptable and thin give us a very wrong perception of weight loss and love. People who weigh more deserve love and affection like any other person.

Monica’s mental health issues too are laughed upon. Her compulsive behaviour portrayed as ‘quirky’, ‘relatable’ and ‘OCD’ makes it harder for any viewer to laugh because mental illness is serious; trivialising and demeaning it will not help the person.

3.Ross, The Misogynistic Palaeontologist

The dinosaur-loving nerdy man whom we were to relate with, expressed his idea of the binary gender spectrum, disregarding non-binary individuals. He was unfunny and people didn’t conform to his idea of being a man or a woman.

Be it his discomfort with his son playing with barbies or his presumption that a male nanny had to be ‘ gay’, his problematic comments stems out numerously throughout the series. According to Ross, not conforming to gender stereotypes makes you a member of the LGBTQIA+ community.

4.The Transph*bic Behaviour And Humiliation Of Chandler’s Dad.

Drag queens might not have been celebrated back then like they are now but that in no world justifies how these group of ‘friends’ reacted around Chandler’s dad with their condescending behaviour and trans humiliating jokes. Chandler’s Dad deserved better as a character.

Apparently, transphobia was very funny in the 90s. Representative image only.

5. Rachel Hired An Underqualified Assistant Because of Of His “Nice Butt”

Hiring an under-qualified assistant because he is cute and has a nice butt is wrong on a lot more levels. Not only is she objectifying the person but also demeaning his work ethics and skills. Although this wasn’t the only time the show has projected characters giving someone credentials because they were aesthetically appealing. Such incidents spring throughout the series.


6.Carol And Susan- The Lesbian Laughing Stock Of The Series

Remember when Ross pointed out about the books on homosexuality when he went over to his ex-wife’s house? Thank god she left him because being stuck with a homoph*bic man as a queer person is one of the biggest nightmares out there. 

The discomfort, the degradation, the demeaning of Carol and Susan showed us how being a lesbian in the sitcom was funnier than the jokes in the sitcom. 

7.Phoebe’s Harassment By Rachel’s Boyfriend.

The harassment of Phoebe by Paolo in Season One is hurtful and uncomfortable to watch and then the reaction of the friends is very dismissive as well.

Instead of acknowledging her assault and supporting her at first, what we see is how all of them are more involved in what Rachel would think of her boyfriend cheating. This scene dismisses sexual harassment at the workplace completely. The entire episode was uncomfortable and to an extent scary and unreal to watch and the nonchalant behaviour of the events afterwards only made it worse.

Along with these, the show proceeds to show us a lot more problematic things like the casual borderline sexual harassment, Ross trying to sleep with his cousin or Joey’s blatant sexism which can’t be ignored regardless of the time it was released.

This popular sitcom may be a  staple to many regardless of the problematic bits but as a queer individual, it seems to be distasteful and cringe-worthy.

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Now as an MH Fellow with YKA, she’s expanding her impressive scope of work further by launching a campaign to facilitate the process of ensuring better menstrual health and SRH services for women residing in correctional homes in West Bengal. The campaign will entail an independent study to take stalk of the present conditions of MHM in correctional homes across the state and use its findings to build public support and political will to take the necessary action.

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With YKA MHM Fellow Vineet, Sabna launched Menstratalk, a campaign that aims to put an end to period poverty and smash menstrual taboos in society. As a start, the campaign aims to begin conversations on menstrual health with five hundred adolescents and youth in Delhi through offline platforms, and through this community mobilise support to create Period Friendly Institutions out of educational institutes in the city.

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As a Youth Ki Awaaz Menstrual Health Fellow, Nitisha has started Let’s Talk Period, a campaign to mobilise young people to switch to sustainable period products. She says, “80 lakh women in Delhi use non-biodegradable sanitary products, generate 3000 tonnes of menstrual waste, that takes 500-800 years to decompose; which in turn contributes to the health issues of all menstruators, increased burden of waste management on the city and harmful living environment for all citizens.

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