Are you going to be a mother soon? Are you nervous about how things are going to be with you and the baby?
Well, let me tell you one thing, it happens with every woman who gets pregnant and is going to enter this beautiful phase of life called “motherhood”. I’ve learnt one thing; not everyone has the same experience as you. However, there is one common thing, we all want to be the best mothers for our babies.
These are some ways you can prepare yourself for your upcoming journey of motherhood:
Motherhood is a beautiful yet difficult phase in a woman’s life and you need to be strong to deal with it. By being strong, I mean both physically and mentally. I’m sure everyone would tell you to eat healthily and take care of your body. However, it is equally important for you to feel good in your mind too.
There will be times when you will feel sad looking at yourself in the mirror with all the stretch marks on your belly or the extra fat you’ve got. You just have to tell your mind that it was all worth it as this is what nature demands. Feel proud that you gave birth to a new soul who is going to call you Mom.
Once you give birth to your little munchkin, you are 24×7 on duty. Feeding, changing diapers, cleaning your baby, household chores, etc., that’s all your life revolves around. I was one of the mothers who never took out time and thought that my life had to revolve around my family’s needs first. Later I realised that taking out time for yourself is not something you can’t avail.
After a bit of planning and prioritising, I managed to get some much needed “me time”. If you do not wish to get involved in any activity, you can just spend your time doing nothing. Sometimes just doing nothing can bring you solace. The only thing important is for you to feel happy and loved.
There is no harm in being a little selfish. Understand the importance of the saying that “if you are happy, you can keep others happy” and vice versa.
Like all other mothers, we do all the necessary things to take care of our babies. Most women want to think that they have more control over their children than they do. We want to think that if we “do it right”, we can control the outcome we want for our children.
It will make it much easier to let go of trying to control your baby and just be the very best mother you can. You are obviously spending most of your time with the baby, but that doesn’t only mean changing diapers or feeding them. You need to bond with the baby in your own ways by engaging them.
When you become a mother, many responsibilities will come your way and it might get difficult for you to manage alone. With my experience, I had no one around, so I had to do everything by myself. However, never hesitate to ask for help. You can call any of your family members or friends and ask them for help. This will make you less exhausted and make your life a little easier.
A new mother will also have a lot of doubts and questions. If you do not have anyone you can speak to or consult about it, you can always check on the internet. There are so many articles out there that will answer your doubts as someone else might have also faced the same situations that you are into right now.
Looking at the baby is obviously going to make you believe that you are a mother now, but it is very important for you to feel like a mother. Motherhood completes a woman but tuning yourself with the situation makes you perfect for a lifetime. There might be times when you feel like you want to leave everything and run away somewhere far from it, but you will get through this; it will just take time.
Motherhood is a beautiful phase. Enjoy and cherish every moment with your baby.