We live in a society where we are constantly judged by others and where we often question our choices based on the societal standards and expectations upto such an extent that we need others approval on almost every aspect of our lives. The constant need for validation and seeking others approval arises from lack of self-esteem, when the person is not satisfied with himself and the choices he makes, rather he puts others opinions and approval above themselves, the person has the constant urge to seek others acceptance and recognition.
Our society through the years has taught us to seek approval of our family members, otherwise it is not socially acceptable. Validation implies where a person wants to be recognised and accepted by the people around him and many a times depending on validation from others disempowers us from accepting our original self and living life on our own terms and choices. At times depending on other’s validation can lead to downward spiral where an individual’s well being and existence depends on living upto others expectations and pleasing them all the time, that they forget their own purpose of life and set unrealistic standards for themselves which can lead to anxiety, drug abuse and reckless behaviour.
Living in a state of consciousness, where others perception about us defines our worth and trying to chase after whatever they can get to feel that acceptance and approval. And the process of seeking validation from others leads to more inner hopelessness and pain, that is why seeking validation is crippling millions of people