Loneliness is a black hole which will swallow all aspects of your life very quickly if you don’t pay attention. From the time I can recall, there has been a feeling of emptiness inside me which developed into anxiety when I became a member of hustle culture.
This feeling of loneliness has reached its pinnacle since the advent of this pandemic. I know I am not alone but I can’t oversee that many of us are drowning ourselves in this ocean by simply not paying attention or being too reluctant to acknowledge it.
A journalist by profession, I am excellent in communicating professionally but have always been too isolated from communicating emotionally and personally. I have never been taught how to share feelings and communicate my emotions to the person I am close to. I am so emotionally disconnected that I shiver when I have to call someone to ask them as to how they have been and that I care about them.
Since we went into lockdown, I have spent most of my time working and learning which means that I, like the majority, have been spending my time alone. And loneliness is now accompanied by anxiety and stress.
The main cure of loneliness as told to me by various sources is to talk to family and friends. Well I don’t know if they really don’t understand our situation or are just plain dumb.
The main identification of a lonely person is that they have little to no friends. Especially the one they can pour their heart out! Even if someone had friends, the chances are they are unavailable, dealing with their own problems or just simply doesn’t exist.
People like us find it difficult to build personal and emotional relationships and have barely placed trust in people. Though Google defines loneliness as being physically isolated from human beings, trust me it’s not that simple.
People may have many people to hang out with or party but still be suffering from loneliness as it’s the lack of emotional communication and connection with others not just physical isolation.
The only advice that I can give to my fellow loners is that being lonely is not cool like Aashiqui 2. It’s unhealthy and will also impact your professional life. You need to remember that you deserve to be happy and you are responsible for your health and wellbeing.
The best way to deal with loneliness according to me is not to be dependent on others for our happiness. It’s not easy or completely achievable but it will help you to choose people because they are good people and not because you are looking for a profit of happiness from them which will also reduce the burden from any relationship.