Last night, I was on my way back home from the office and my cell phone beeps. It showed a text from my best friend.
“Can’t take it anymore 🙁
Things are worsening between me and her with every passing day. She just wants me to be her puppet and I am losing myself amid all of this.
I want to end a relationship with a toxic girlfriend.
Please help me.”
This is not the guy who happens to be my best friend. The one who texted me seemed too gloomy, unconfident, and helpless. However, the person I knew was so self-assured and cheerful.
Perhaps this is how a toxic relationship impacts, I sighed as I read through the message. Besides, I was wondering how to get him out of this toxic relationship then and there. He has been living in hell with his toxic girlfriend for over six years now. So, I called up one of my close friends who is a relationship expert and discussed with her. That was a good idea.
While talking to her I figured out that my bestie is not the only victim of a toxic relationship. Many people are sailing on the same boat. And the worst part is they could not realize when a troublesome relationship turns toxic. (Just like you don’t realize that the lip-smacking junk food is unhygienic unless it gets you food poisoning). Sometimes repercussions of a situation make us realize that something is seriously wrong.
Sharing insights from my discussion with the expert to help all those dealing with a toxic partner to get out of it. Let us delve to explore how to deal with a toxic relationship.
First things first, so let us begin with understanding a toxic relationship.
Toxic relationships in a nutshell
Though there is no pre-defined definition of a toxic relationship. Different people construe things differently. But there is an obvious explanation for a toxic relationship. And it is quite simple. When in a relationship you feel like being more a puppet than a partner – dude, your relationship has turned toxic. It is when you start feeling unhappy with your partner because of their negative talks, controlling behavior, and unnecessary tantrums.
Red flags of a toxic relationship
- Persistent sadness and anxiety
- Lack of belongingness
- A relationship feels like a baggage
- Loss of interest in things you use to enjoy about your relationship
- Unwillingness to talk or meet each other
- Constant blame game
- The dearth of compassion or empathy
Understand the signs of a toxic partner
- Doesn’t support you through ups and downs
- Disrespects you publicly
- Always indulge in negative conversations
- Feels envious of your achievements
- Exhibits controlling and daunting behavior
- Neglects your needs and emotions
- Makes you feel like trash
- Give unpredictable responses
- Stalks you on social media or checks your cell phone
Why is it extremely important to avoid a bad partner?
Being with a toxic partner in a relationship not only ruins you emotionally. It rather deteriorates your mental and physical health leaving you with chronic anxiety. A bad partner can make you lose your self-worth and confidence. You remain mentally occupied with the thoughts of seeking breakup tips with your toxic partner. There can be some disastrous health effects of a toxic relationship including:
- Constant stress
- Long-lasting fatigue
- Loss of interest in things and life
- Self-doubt
- Depression
- Severe headaches
- Unstable blood pressure
- Separation from friends and family
- Instant mood swings
- Abnormal weight loss or weight gain
No relationship or partner can ever be more important than your health and peace of mind. Therefore, avoiding a toxic partner is the last resort in this situation. Though it is not that easy to un-love someone your love truly but it is vital to save yourself from unnecessary torment.
Here are some tips for a breakup with a toxic partner.
Implementing these tips could be hard pills to swallow but would bring out positive outcomes. Ending a toxic relationship will certainly help you move out of the miseries and step into a flourishing world.
1. Take advice from a relationship expert
Experts may give a broader perspective on how to handle a breakup owing to their diverse experiences. They may better tell you the dos and don’ts along with some therapies and additional support that may help you deal with a toxic partner in a better way.
2. Make a clear and final discussion with your partner
Meet each other in person and give real closure to your toxic relationship. Confront the situation and share your feelings and pain points you are experiencing in this relationship. And finally, end it up.
3. Stand by your decision
Don’t stay in doldrums. Make your mind if you want to break up with your toxic partner and never look back. Block their contact number and social media handles if they try to patch up. Making harsh decisions on breakup could sort the rest of your life.
4. Start a good self-care regimen
Forgive yourself for the time when you neglected your self-care for the sake of fixing a temporary and toxic relationship. Start pampering yourself with relaxing head massages, regular grooming, reading good books, and enrolling in personal development classes – as you deserve all the love. Go for a dinner date with yourself or hang out with friends because your toxic partner is not there to put restrictions.
5. Spend quality time with your family
You may have been unintentionally ignoring your family as you were stuck in your world with a bad partner. But happy times are back again. Chill with your parents and siblings. Bring back the laughter to the dining table and the affection among you all.
Now when you have unveiled how to break up with a toxic partner. Your next major lesson is to discover the ‘DON’TS’. Knowing what not to do is much more important than knowing what to do. Read the next section diligently as there is no option to embrace the following things:
- The habit of smoking or consuming alcohol to find temporary comfort
- Cutting off from the outer world and sliding into the past
- Feeling too emotional to handle now and then
- Start a new relationship just for the sake of diverting your mind
- Ignoring your ambitions and dreams due to a bad relationship
- Making up your mind that every partner or relationship will turn out to be toxic
Final thoughts
Emotions are the foundation of our relationships that make life more beautiful. But when you flood up with negative emotions just because of another person’s actions and behavior – it is not worth it. You can’t waste your precious life dealing with toxic people. So, keep your head straight and move out of that hell to find better people who deserve you. It is okay to take time to end a bad relationship but it is the only choice you have.
Better be late than never.
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Author Bio: Ravi Kant has been working as a marketing consultant and writing on various topics related to gifting and personalization for Clickokart.