Menstruation is a hormonal phenomena for girls. Lot of blood loss and feeling tired sometimes. All people known this general things. Some girlish feelings will be like can’t travel because there will be a doubt of blood strains in dress and sometime can’t sleep freely of the same issue of blood strains in bed spread.
Now you may ask “If there is blood strains what is the problem? All people today have more awareness about periods, so they will not take you bad? Move on and be free.”
Ya! Your question and your view is correct. There are lot of short films and some movies about periods. Each time when you watch serial, reality show or movies there will be ads about sanitary napkins. Nowadays some of the State Government are making sanitary napkins free for girls studying in Government schools. Boys of present day can go to shop and buy napkins without any shame. You can think this as a great change in our Indian Society. Even me too can congratulate about such happenings.
But I can’t be happy only with this change. Because “I am a girl”. You may even question, “why not”?
Buying sanitary napkins is enough for a girl? Periods are like common cold and fever, it will come and it will go, why to take it so serious? Working girls are not even consider about periods, only girls sitting in home have no work to do and talking about periods a big thing?
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You may buy and give her a big bag of sanitary napkins. Who will be with her to share the pain? Will sanitary napkins will share the pain? The readers of this content may be boys too. If you are a boy you can ask me, “Whether we are sitting in home and watching TV and Youtube? We are having a lot of office work and work stress. We are worried about our project will go well or I am eligible to promotion or can I pay EMI for next month? We are in great pain than you girls. We are not in a happy mood to take care of you? Why can’t you understand us? Instead of taking care of us, you all are blaming us of not taking care of you. Don’t you feel matured enough to ask your husband or father to take care of you?”
Let me explain you one simple logic, the above cited problems are due to mental stress handled by boys all alone and there is nobody to share their stress or make them feel free. So they are not happy enough to keep others happy by sharing their pain. The same logic applicable for women also. During periods, a girl will have lot of mood swings and periods stress. Her hormone will be at peak. She can’t understand things in a normal way. Her body will be aching and mind will stress her and she will be short tempered about you. Her mind will be longing for somebody to ask a simple word “How are you? Are you Ok? Can I help you in kitchen works? Are can I buy some food for you from outside? Today you take rest I will take care of the children for this three or five days? Whatever happen I will be with you. You can call me anytime for anything. I am yours. Don’t feel, though I can’t share your pain, at least I can understand your pain mentally. Everything will be okay in some days”. For saying these things it will take only 10 minutes. But the sad truth is 90% of the girls will never receive this words till their life ends. He may be a well educated boy or uneducated or having high profile job or medium salaried or daily wages, these simple words will only come from the mind of the boy who really cares his girl. He should have the feel that she is my girl and I can’t leave her to suffer.
Suddenly a question may arises, “Whether a girl sitting in home is sharing my work stress or financial problems? Then why I should care for her?” Brothers, fathers, uncles and my dear friends understand that money is different from human pain. Even if you cut your fingers and had a blood drop, you will feel bad about the pain that cut caused. Same is happen to girls, lot of blood and mood fluctuation and she needs you, kindly understand.
If you had an accident, you had a heavy blood loss and you are admitted in an hospital. If someone came and paid your bills and got food for you and left without caring about you, how you will feel? You will be sitting alone in a bed, you will have all kinds of fruits to eat but nobody is there to take and give you. You are having a lot of bank balance but nobody is ready to take care of you because all are busy in earning their own money. In this situation, can you understand about others situation? Can you feel free that I have bank balance and fruits to eat, why I need other persons caring? You are in bed so you can’t earn, so your wife went to work to run your family. She is working day and night and she has no time to ask you whether you had breakfast, lunch or dinner or had medicine on time? She is not in mood to ask your story, instead she can do some work productively to earn more. She is buying and giving you everything before you ask but not ready to ask about your feeling. In this moment if you understand about your wife and you still love her more than anything you are God. Instead, if you get angry on her, besides what she bought for you, then you are a human. Ya guys, girls too are human. They too have feelings. Try to understand about that.
My title sounds weird right? What periods are going to do with Corona Lockdown? I am running short of napkins due to close shops or not going out? No friends not at all.
These many days I was thinking that people are busy enough in their life and they had no time to take care of me. Now only I got to know, even people are free they will not take care of you. Unless you are earning a lump sum amount as salary or rich girl or running your own business, atleast they try to act as they care for you. Other girls condition are very worst. Even in this Corona lockdown period you ask your husband or father for your help during periods, they will shout at you like, “We are free now only, why are you disturbing us? Can’t be free even in lockdown period. Girls are always irritating fellows. Always coming inside our freedom and disturbing us?
Working girls situation is more worst. If it is a periods day also, they want to wake up early make all preparation for them, husband and children. The tiredness will be disappear in the busyness. At work they want to work like normal time. They want to handle work stress and their internal mood stress. They want to perform well in work otherwise their reputation will be broke down in a single day. They will hardly have time to even take rest. They will run like super hero saving the world. No words to describe about them.
My dear girls, not for 21 days lockdown, even if it is 21 years lockdown and boys don’t go for any work also they will not help you during this time. Because you are their servants, fashion models, toys, another income source and status symbols. They will play with you, they will spend time and money but never respect you. I am not blaming all boys. There are really some boys who will be caring their girls to the core. But caring ratio is less compared to not caring
ratio.
Even in this current scenario, I deeply understood my position in family and society. Corona and periods taught me a good lesson to be self independent. Though it is tough to leave emotions and take care of ourselves by our own. Because we are brought up in mind set to depend on boys for everything. It may be things or feelings. Anything should come from the boy who is going to travel with us till life long. If we are not going to get what is expected, then we have to change our mind set.
We can’t even blame boys because they also stand in social status trap. They were grown in a set up to become rich in whatever way that is possible. What to say? No words to describe about both the gender.
In this periods, I came to the conclusion that “I will take care of myself and each time of periods I will increase my will power to stay strong to protect my future generation girls and my dreams without disturbing my peace of mind. If I become a mother of a girl baby, I will make her to grow in an independent way of not seeking boys for emotional attachment unless it is offered from the boy and if it is boy baby, let me express the feel of the pain and stress to him, so that let him try to keep his wife or other girls in a caring mindset. “Pain teach us life”. I felt in this Corona Lockdown period. Wiped my tears and let me move towards my goals. As this periods is not going to affect me anymore in this life span.
This may be a simple issue for most, but I felt complicated to move out of this non caring state. Simple to describe and hard to digest. Nobody is going to understand. Only we have to change and change our view about the world. Let’s rise and make the future generation of India to be strong enough to make money and caring enough for all the living things around us.
Simple words from a common girl like millions of girls in India.