Monica and Chandler were never perfect, they found their way out. Not everyone has that tolerance and antagonism to things, we develop with time. Chandler was frightened of commitments whereas Monica was all into marriage, but as the plot grows, we see Monica helping Chandler figure out his insecurities, and Chandler assisted Monica to comprehend his viewpoint towards life.
Likeminded people might find peace but people who never give up on each other find love. Thank you Mondler for bringing about the understanding that relationships are not manufactured, they are created with love, patience, understanding, adjustment, and sacrifices. They taught us we all come with our own set of reasons, remembrances, and pains, but being there for your s/o works. Stop anticipating others to be perfect, try your way out to comfort them, so your partner can be vulnerable to you. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how hard it becomes, you can still make it.
Chandler – “You’re not easy-going, but you’re passionate, and that’s good. And when you get upset about the little things, I think that I’m pretty good about making you feel better about that. And that’s good too. So, they can say that you’re high maintenance, but it’s okay because I like…maintaining you.”
Their relationship went through many stages – courtship, engagement, marriage, buying a house, trying to get pregnant – we saw them growing to figure out even in all odds with their ever-changing relationship.
Real love is real and it deals with daily issues.
1. They Taught Us Acceptance
Just because our paths are meant to be the same, our ideology, preferences, theories, patterns might not be. We all have our flaws, and they are supposed to be accepted first, then corrected.
Monica was a neat freak perfectionist, obsessed with children and marriage, whereas chandler was insecure, scared, confused, lazy, and messy. This is something we all can relate to. They are two completely different people, but they accept each other’s flaws without complaint. Our strength may collide, one’s weakness might irritate, but above all, you accept each other with all those flaws. That’s the beauty of being together. Complete and complement each other where they lack.
2. Change Is A Process, Not A Miracle
There will be a long list where you don’t like each other ways but expecting to change is not the only option and that too in a heartbeat. A person’s behaviors are the result of their upbringing, surroundings, education, experience, and society. And since they are practicing it for years, it is hard to identify and tune it.
Chandler did not magically become a neat freak who cared passionately about the work he did. Chandler also never complains about Monica’s obsession with cleanliness. When they first move in together, he even tries to clean the apartment for her. They do not press the other person to change, which is beneficial to their relationship. You need to understand and support first rather than nagging to change.
Hey couples, enable each other and grow together.
3. Marriage Is A Celebration To You, Not An Advertisement
No need to fall for those fancy unnecessary dramatic expensive marriage ideas unless you want to. Marriage is for the two people and their families, not to flaunt In front of society.
4. We Are All Stories Still Being Read
Just because you have something or someone that doesn’t define you as a person and that doesn’t design for future possibilities, we all grow and evolve every day. Our habits, practices, preference, and people change. Let bygones be gone and rather understand to be more cooperative, and be more supportive.
Even if you’ve known stories about your new partner’s past, you should not pass judgment on them because of their past. We all grow up, don’t we? If you reject someone based on what you’ve heard about them, you may be passing up a potential Chandler in the rough, and don’t we all want to find our Chandler?
5. It Won’t Be A Fairy Tale
Life is a roller coaster and when it comes to marriage the brakes mostly fail. Welcome to real life, it sucks. Chandler and Monica’s lives were not always easy but they made it work. Life will suck at different levels, be it friends, family, society, finance, misunderstanding, job, etc.
If you are certain that this is the person, you make it work regardless of the circumstances with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Even when things were tough, they remained united, which is what you must do to get through it. Turning on each other will lead to the end of the relationship.
6. The Weirdest Things Can Be Marvelous.
you might find your partner in the middle of a crisis or pandemic. But for sure they will be worth the struggle. Even if it didn’t start perfectly, it’s not how one would expect it to go. You wouldn’t necessarily think that this person would end up being their soul mate. Instead of dreaming for the cute-romantic Bollywood idea that they make us believe, we should accept that true love can begin with a random decision.
Waiting for the perfect fairy tale romance in your life will keep you waiting for the rest of your life. When true love appears, it is rarely wrapped in a pretty bow as you might expect. Chandler and Monica’s situation began unusually, and it was not the most desirable situation.
“So, don’t dismiss the guy at the bar who gave you his phone number or the guy you matched with on Tinder. We’re not saying you’ll fall in love, but it’s entirely possible.”
Regardless of how flawed the person or situation appears you should embrace it. Chandler and Monica would not have wind up next to each other if they had stood in line for the perfect person or event rather than embracing the wacky love story which was right across the hall.